Signs of Being in an Abusive Relationship and Taking Action

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According to the World Health Organization (WHO), about one third of women, worldwide, have experienced physical and/or sexual violence by an intimate partner. With this data, we can safely assume that some of these women live with their intimate partners and thus, their experiences of intimate partner violence may fall under domestic violence. However, let us not forget that some men are also be experiencing this type of violence. Either way, the victim must take action.

Unfortunately, many of these victims don’t even know that they are actually experiencing abuse or domestic violence. Fortunately, just like how some products have unique device identifiers, domestic violence also has its own indicators and some of these are the following:

Abusive Spouse

  • Spouse is aggressively dominant.

An abusive spouse or any abuser is usually a very dominant individual, he/she is in charge of everything leaving you with no-say at all. Furthermore, he/she expects you to obey commands  without any question.

  • Spouse gives out threats.

One of the most common tactics abusers use is dropping threats; this is to scare you and stop you pressing charges against them. Usually, abusers will use what or who is dear to you (e.g. children, secrets, etc.)

  • Spouse employs intimidation.

Common forms of intimidation may include displaying weapons, destroying things or properties, and being violent towards something in front of you.

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  • Spouse intends to isolate you.

Usually, it will become very hard for the victim to go out. The abusive spouse or abuser will not allow you from meeting friends nor family; this is so you will become more dependent on them.

  • Spouse uses humiliation.

Insults such as name calling and shaming are abusers’ number one weapon so their victims will feel worthless and would not leave their side.

  • Spouse physically hits you.

Of course, if your spouse violently hits you, that is automatically considered abuse. No further questions asked.

Taking Action

If you are facing some of the things listed above then you are most probably a victim of an abusive relationship or domestic violence, if you and your spouse live together. Now, that you’ve confirmed this, you have got to take action.

At an opportune time, ask help from a family member or a friend. Stay over at someone else’s house and while you are safe, you must report your spouse or abuser to the authorities. Although this might be hard to do, know that it is the right thing to do to prevent further physical and emotional damages. At the end of it all, you should seek help from legal professionals such as domestic violence lawyers in Manhattan; they will guide you in filing for a divorce or any legal action that is suited for your case.

Ideas for Outdoor Christmas Decorations for Your Home

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Decorating the Home for Christmas

Christmas will always be one of our favorite special occasions. In this season, families and friends get together and exchange gifts. Not to mention, lots and lots of food are also on the table which might require you to hit the gym to get your fitness back after the holiday. When it’s Christmas season, it’s important for our homes to feel the Christmas vibe inside and out.

Unfortunately, many homeowners tend to leave out their outdoor areas when it comes to setting up Christmas decorations. If possible, there should also be Christmas decors outside your home so that everyone who passes by would get to feel that Christmas vibe just by simply looking at your garden, your gate, or your doorstep.

So, if you’re looking for some amazing ideas on how to decorate the outside of your home during Christmas, you’ve come to the right place. Here are some unique and common Christmas suggestions for the exterior part of your home.

Outdoor Decoration Ideas

  • Christmas Lights for Trees and Shrubs

One common way to decorate your house’s exterior for this holiday season is by simply dressing up your trees and bushes with Christmas series lights. You can simply wrap these Christmas lights around the shrubs to give them that glowing effect. Although much more complicated, you can also hang Christmas lights on your trees; however, you might need some ladder and extra help for this one.

  • Christmas Laser Lights

A newer alternative that is slowly replacing the traditional series lights mentioned above is the Christmas laser lights projector. This Christmas decoration is so easy to set up; you simply mount it plug it in, mount it on the ground and point it towards the area you want to cover with Christmas patterns.

These projectors may come with patterns of snowflakes, stars, dots, and others. For Christmas, a good green and red projector lights would do the job. What’s great is that these projectors operate at such a low wattage and yet, it already covers a very wide area beautifully. If you’re interested in getting to know more, you can find more info at Laser Light Bros.

  • Entryway Garland

The famous garland decor will never go out of style. And if you thought garlands are only fitting for the indoors, you’ve never been so wrong. Many homeowners have creatively decorated their home’s entryway and front porch with garlands. You may simply wrap the garland around your front porch railings or you can

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  • Door and Wall Wreath

What is Christmas without a wreath? Regardless if you bought it from the star or if it’s a DIY wreath, you can never go wrong with it. You can simply hang the wreath in your front door or on the walls of your porch.

  • Porch Bench Holiday Arrangement

If you have a bench in your front porch or if you have and outdoor table and chairs in your front yard, a holiday garland arrangement might just be perfect. The arrangement shall mimic a flower arrangement but instead of flowers and leaves, a garland will be used and other Christmas decors such as Christmas balls, bells, Santa Claus dolls, etc. should accompany it as well. You can simply place this on the bench or as a centerpiece for the table.

  • Lanterns and Candles

It’s also great to decorate your home with lanterns and candles in the entryway or around the porch; however, it’s important to be very careful when dealing with actual fire and other Christmas decorations as one mistake might set your house smoking.

It’s important for all homeowners to be extra careful during the Christmas season since more decorations, lights, and candles are common to start cases of fire. Ensure safety by keeping decorations away from lit candles. In addition, watch out for decors that overheat as well.

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